Most people are usually nervous when it comes to first dates. This is usually due to lack of dating experience or lack of confidence in oneself. The obvious solution is to have more experiences and get out of your comfort zone and grow a little bit. More dates he says? I can do that! lol
Long silences between your conversations can be painful, but where is the rule that says every moment needs to be full of words? Why are you trying to come up with a few funny lines to break the silence? Why not just look into the other persons eyes, or hold their hand and walk and just be with each other? Those situations on dates are much more chill. You see, it’s how you react to the situation that makes the difference. You can freak out or you can be cool.
Usually, first dates are spent in places where you can’t sit and talk with your date in order to get to know each other better. Some people go to the movies, which is absolutely the worst place to have a conversation. Wait until later in the relationship to go to the movies, and avoid other activities that make it difficult to talk when in the early stages of a relationship.
Another thing to avoid is dining in an expensive restaurant to impress your date. This is bad because you shouldn’t feel the need to “impress” anyone. You should be focused on having a good time with them and building a connection.
Dates like these just need a little jump-start to be more effective. Try adding some adventure or do a set of enjoyable activities together in order to have fun with your dates. You could also have some coffee at the local coffee house and keep things engaging by people watching, which is one of my favorite games to play on a first date.
Some men take their dates to an adventurous place. They go to a few local destinations or historical places within the area. They go around to these places and have so much to see and so many things to talk about. These are the times when you don’t need a funny line to break the silence.
Sometimes a case of rain tries to spoil your date, and you can’t go out for a walk at the local park or other outdoor spots conducive for talking and knowing each other better. On the brighter side though, you can go indoors. Try some a mall where you can find a wide variety of places to go into. You can pretend to shop for furniture and plan your life together, or you can pick out clothes for each other that you’d never wear and force them to try something new on.
There’s always bowling, arcades, or bookstores to share your interests with your date. The main idea is to interact with your date in order to know them better. This will surely bolster your chances of landing a second date, one that could lead to love and romance in the long run.
With these ideas in mind, go and check out some places near you for fun activities you and your date will surely enjoy.
~Matt Adams